“I trust him to….”
“I trust her to….”
How many times have we heard people say that?
My theory is that trust is our expectations of others shrouded under the guise of knowing that they will act in a manner that will be pleasing to us. When I hear people verbalize how they ‘ know’ a person will not do such and such because they trust them, it brings home the fact that they obviously expect the person to fulfill certain things.
So can we do without trust? Or is it a necessary ingredient that serves as the assurance that we have some semblance of control over others actions? When we trust, we hope that the person will be motivated by our well-being or that they have values (Robyn M. Dawes & Richard H. Thaler,Anomalies: Cooperation, 2 J. ECON. PERSP. 187, 195 (1988).) As a result we can rest in peace and handle those things that are within our control.
There is a certain amount of vulnerability that accompanies trust. More and more I find that it is crucial to communicate our expectations so that others may know what is required of them. This sometimes saves me a lot of time and disappointment especially when dealing with friends and family. Clearly stated expectations will save you a lot of hustle and the unnecessary heartache associated with hoping that people who care about you will behave in a manner that will be pleasing to you. Trust enables us to handle the present, that which is currently within our grasp that we can manipulate to obtain desired outcomes
Is trust therefore cardinal to our sanity?