“How do I look?”
We are all familiar with this line. Even one of the geico commercials depicts a variation of this scenario when honest Abe risks the truth about his wife’s outfit making her look fat that results with his wife haughtily walking off.
Having four sisters has led to my being an accomplished ‘fibber au necessaire ‘ (fib when it is most necessary. My own term). It’s just easier sometimes to be safe and tell someone what they want to hear rather than risk the misery that follows when you say what you are actually thinking.
Like when one of my friends traveled 90 miles to an outlet mall, bought an unflattering dress to wear for that special someone, for that special date that she had been hoping would happen so badly. Well, who was I to ruin it and tell her that the dress really cut her legs off giving her a stumpy look (thank you project runway) or that the strapless top of the dress made her look like an ice cream cone?
Of course I was going to play it safe than sorry. I chose to focus on how happy my friend was for finally finagling this date that I chose to tell her that she would pass master. The joy she was exuding by far outmatched the fashion fauxpar she was committing.
I felt absolved from my guilt when she landed not a second but a third date. I am not an advocate for rampant fibbing-I think they call that pathological lying-but sometimes it is better to be safe than sorry.
- Honesty: A Dying Virtue? (socyberty.com)
- Honesty vs. Integrity (socyberty.com)
- Project Runway Season 8 Episode 9: Race To The Finish. Memorable Quotes From Last Night’s Episode (secondcitystyle.typepad.com)