Watching Kanye’s video with Matt Lauer today was painful. He was the epitome of regret …oh and my definition of regret that I am very familiar with is wishing you could go back in time and undo something you either thought, said or did. A phenomenon that I am all too familiar with!
Without getting into the particulars of Bush’s and Kanye’s feud (plenty of YouTube videos you can look up if you want to go back in time and see Kanye struggling to articulate his regret) , which in the current economic and health care crisis seem so irrelevant, we can look at how regret shapes what we think, say and act.
The thing about regret is that once it’s done it’s done! You can’t go back and undo it, but you can look back.
‘It,’ being something you either thought, said or did. The only thing you can do after that is make future decisions based on the outcome you experienced. Regret being the cousin to reflection can be a powerful motivator to take a step back and anticipate what you will gain from doing something.
When you anticipate the outcome you are experiencing anticipatory regret. You look at the pros and cons (the risks involved) of what you are about to do and then make a decision based on what you think you stand to gain. This way you can make a decision that hopefully you won’t regret. It is a great way to decide whether anything is worth doing.
I would love to say that I have little to regret but alas, my life has been full of many regrets. I like to call them experiences (it has a more positive connotation), but learning from what has happened in your life and using those experiences regrets as a template can save you many unnecessary problems regrets.
So using the Kanye’s /Bush story: if Kanye had anticipated the outcome of his statements, perhaps he wouldn’t have had to pretend he regrets the choice to say them and Bush would not have been feeling so low in his presidency about unimportant stuff and maybe he would have focused more on Katrina, Iraq, Afghanistan, 911 etc.
Regret is dangerous, try to avoid it by anticipating the outcome of your thoughts, words and actions!
- Kanye’s awkward Matt Lauer interview (pinkbananaworld.com)
- Kanye West and George W. Bush Make Up (thehollywoodgossip.com)
- George W. Bush Forgives Kanye West: “I’m Not a Hater” (seattlepi.com)
- Bush says he appreciates Kanye’s expression of regret (ctv.ca)
- Bush reacts to apology from Kanye West (today.msnbc.msn.com)
- All’s well between George W. Bush and Kanye West (thestar.com)